Dr. Cali Estes, The Addictions Coach and Founder of The Addictions Academy confirmed they have a unique Coaching Certification program designed to train professionals so the can help parents and clients find structure, accountability, motivation, social skills, and more to help young adults who may be unable to find a direction in life which sufficiently motivates them into action.
The term Failure to Launch Syndrome has surfaced and it describes the early adult (up to 40s even) that is still living at home, working sporadic jobs (or unemployed), and sometimes hooked on video games or drugs and alcohol. The parents are not sure what to do, but the enabling has gotten out of hand. Some parents not only provide lodging and pay their son/daughter’s rent, their car payment and provide spending money, but they also come over and clean, cook, and do all the laundry.
Estes said, “We all know the classic example of the 30-something living in Mom & Dad’s basement and working at the local pizza parlor, or the 28-year-old college drop-out who’s thrown in the towel on the prospect of education and success.”
“We call it Failure-to-Launch Syndrome, and it is a surprisingly common condition we see, of which is most often seen among those having been raised in more affluent households.”
What causes this? Is it a matter of maturity or lack thereof? Is it simply a matter of being “stuck in life,” with no direction or answers? Is it maybe somehow related to a mental health condition like depression or bipolar disorder?
The reality is that Failure-to-Launch is often the culmination of several variables in life. One unique component Dr. Estes sees, however, is that many times these individuals were at one point driven in their lives, with goals and aspirations. Yet for whatever reason, they are now in a decade-long rut that has them still siphoning off others in their life.
This “couch-surfing” lifestyle often leads them back home and many parents are unable to find a solution. This can get pretty serious as highlighted in a well-known story carried worldwide. Parents had to sue their 30-year-old son in order to get him to move out.
As famously reported by CNN and other major media networks, “A 30-year-old man didn’t get the message that it was time to move out of his parents’ home, even after they left him five notices and an offer of cash to help find new digs. The New York family drama eventually rolled into the court system, where a judge ruled in the parents’ favor and ordered Michael Rotondo to leave after having a room for eight years.”
And according to a survey from Zillow Group Inc., approximately 22.5% of millennials ages 24 through 36 are living at home with their moms or both parents, up nine percentage points since 2005 and the most in any year in the last decade.
“Our approach to helping those struggling with Failure-to-Launch is largely about creating a new reality, a reality that is built around the client’s persona, abilities and/or passions, yet while effectively integrating it all within the realms of responsibility, maturity, patience, recognizing opportunities and so much more,” explained Dr. Estes.
She continued, “It is entirely about long-term solutions and success.”
If you heard the terms Helicopter Parenting, Snowplow Parenting, or even Lawnmower Parenting, this training is the solution. These parenting styles have risen out of ‘the leave no child behind’ educational concept, and no one gets cut from the cheer squad or football team.
In essence, these kids do not learn failure and are used to their parents making everything “Ok” for them. They may fill out one job application and complain it is too hard. They expect to work for high pay, limited hours, and do little to no work with no real training skill set. They report high levels of anxiety and depression, and they are skilled at manipulation of their parents.
Dr. Cali Estes said, “This training allows the new certified coaches to view each client individually and are able to create a “Re-Launch” process tailored around his or her needs. From seemingly smaller successes to a whole new existence built as much on desire as it is on necessity, this can be an opportunity for growth like none other.”
Dr. Cali Estes and The Addictions Academy have been offering a wide-ranging assortment of advanced training for several years in an ongoing effort to counteract the growing addiction problem. The Academy has more than 30 faculty teaching over 40 courses in five different languages. Program graduates can be found in 25 countries helping address the addiction problem worldwide.
To learn more about Dr. Cali Estes, The Addictions Coach, visit https://theaddictionscoach.com.
To learn more about the Failure-to-Launch Coaching program, go to https://theaddictionsacademy.com/failure-to-launch/.